Gastro-battical 2018-2019 – Thailand – February 3, 2019

chefshumorI know some of you are probably tired of listening to my rants of spirituality and love and Buddhist dharma. So I thought I’d take a break from that, if only temporarily, so I can send you some of my latest cooking fun.

I have spent about the last 3 weeks immersed into Thailand culture, cooking and eating together with the family. It has been a rich and incredible experience that I could have never imagined nor planned ahead of time. It’s amazing what happens when you let go and not try to steer the ship all the time. Even though I fulfilled my sabbatical obligation to the college I work for by living in India for two months and learning about their cultural cuisine, I decided to take that intention into Thailand and onward into my further travel as well. This adventure has been so fulfilling for me, its hard to put into words sometimes.

As the date of expiration of my 60-day Thailand visa get s closer, I am observing the full range of emotions and feelings inside of me as it’s time to move along to Cambodia and Vietnam before I head to Indonesia in the spring. I have developed beautiful caring, loving friendships that it’s sad to leave them. It’s hard to believe I’ve been away from home since September 2018 and it just turned February. I am going to write about this and I just wanted to mention it here briefly.

In the meantime, I want to share a couple of my favorite dishes and their recipes for you, as I did when I was in India. One of my favorite Thai dishes in Pad-Thai. I can’t tell you how may times I ate those noodles from street vendors. Some were definitely better than others. And then I made them with Kay… and those were the best I ever had. I’m giving you the recipes. I hope you enjoy!

Pad Thai – Thai Fried Noodles

140 grams medium rice noodles – be aware if they are completely dry or have water in them.
If a little wet, do not soak.

¼ cup vegetable oil
¼ cup (40 grams) bean curd, diced
2 tablespoons pickled radish, chopped
2 teaspoons garlic, chopped
1 teaspoon shallot, chopped
4 (60 grams) fresh shrimps, shelled and de-veined – Can use dried shrimps instead.

2 eggs

Seasoning Mixture Ingredients
3T fish sauce
3T Palm Sugar
3T Tamarind juice

Garnish
2 tablespoons roasted peanuts, pound
2 teaspoons chilies powder
1 cup bean sprouts
¼ cup
(1) chives cut
Banana blossom, lime, green leaf or Asiatic penny wort, chives as needed

 

 

 

 

 

 

1. Soak medium rice noodles in the water. Lift onto a sieve until drain.

2. In a mixing bowl, mix seasoning mixture ingredients until dissolved.

3. Heat vegetable oil in a wok. Fry diced bean curd until golden. Add shallot, garlic, pickled radish and shrimp until cooked

4. Add medium rice noodles and fry until soften. Add seasoning mixture ingredients. Add egg until cooked. Put aside. Wrap noodles with flat egg sheet.

5. When served, spoon onto a serving plate. Serve with fresh bean sprout, chives, green leaf or Asiatic penny-wort, peanuts, chili powder and lime

 

 

 

 

The next dish I had was absolutely incredible. It has all the palate sensations that I talk about in my classes. Sweet, sour, salty, spicy, crunchy and chewy. I didn’t make this myself, but I watched it be put together at the end. Kay is an incredibly talented cook with a well-developed sense of taste and I hope everyone gets the chance to learn from her in the kitchen and listen to her spiritual wisdom.

Mee Krob Chao Wang – Royal Crispy Vermicelli

Ingredients:

garlic chopped
fermented black beans – ground
shallots finely chopped

eggs – for the nest

sugar cane or palm
lime juice
fish sauce

bitter orange zest or lime

prawns – cut into small cubes
pork and chicken ground
or fried tofu for vegetarian

raw bean sprouts
garlic chives
cayenne pepper

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https://youtu.be/cieDZT_t8t0

 

 

 

 

 

 

For the sauce
On medium heat
Oil – garlic & shallots – brown until pungentAdd black beansAdd fish sauce, lime juice and sugar to taste
Stir and reduce to thick syrup

 

Rice Vermicelli – 1pack

Separate it a bit when dry
Quick soak for a few seconds and shake dry
Only 30 or so seconds before you fry it in HOT oil until little golden brown – HOT OIL is a crucial part of this technique

Fry the pork until its dehydrated and crispy – golden brown.
Fry the prawns separately – used as garnish so not dry.
Tofu would need to be crispy too… or else the noodles will get soggy

Everything needs to be dry if to be stored for a while

Whisk eggs – they need to be crispy strings
Using a sieve to get into the hot oil.

Pour the sauce over the crispy noodles in wok
The pan needs to be low-med heat and mix to coat the noodles

Fold gently or else the noodles will be mushy
Mix until evenly coated

Add Orange zest

Put in bowl, turn upside down on a dish
Put eggs on top of noodles

Garnish with fresh mung bean sprouts
Garlic chives
Prawns
Coriander leaf

 

 

There are so many egg dishes here in Thailand using chicken, duck and quail eggs. And I’m not talking omelets, though the Thai style omelet is pretty incredible. Since Kay is of Chinese descent, I wanted to share this one with you.

Moo Palo Recipe, Eggs and Pork Fragrant Stew –

สูตรทำไข่พะโล้หมูสามชั้นเห็ดหอม ; khai phalo muu saam chan het haawm- Serves: 8

An all-time classic and a favorite Thai stew, this easy-to-prepare, tasty and fragrant dish was introduced into Thai cuisine by Chinese immigrants.

moopaloIngredients:
400gr pork belly (sliced bacon), cut into 3cm (1.5″) cubes
300gr pork shoulder or tenderloin, cut into 3cm (1.5″) cubes
7 large eggs
300gr firm bean curd, cut into 2cm (1″) cubes
Neutral taste cooking oil for deep frying
10-20 (25gr) dry shiitake mushrooms
1/3 cup (125gr) palm sugar
3 star anise fruits
3 pieces of cassia tree bark, 5cm (2″) each
1 teaspoon Chinese five-spice powder (phalo powder)
1/4 cup fish sauce
8 cups water
2 tablespoons dark sweet sauce
1 tablespoon light soy sauce
1 tablespoon oyster sauce

Garlic coriander paste:
3 medium coriander roots (about 10gr), scraped, washed and finely chopped
5 large cloves garlic (about 20gr), finely chopped
2 teaspoons black peppercorns (about 5gr)
1 teaspoon salt

Method:

  1. Soak the shiitake mushrooms in 1 cup of boiling water for about 15 minutes.
  2. When re-hydrated, strain. Save both the water and the mushrooms and set aside. Remove and discard the hard stalks.
  3. Gently place the eggs in a pot and cover with cold water. Add 1 tablespoon of salt and 1 tablespoon of white vinegar to prevent the eggs from cracking. Bring to boil, and let it boil for one minute on medium heat. Then turn off the heat and cover the pot. Let rest for 15 minutes. Transfer the eggs to a cold water bath, and let them cool down. Peel and dry. Set aside.
  4. Cut the bean curd into 2cm (1″) cubes
  5. Deep fry the bean curd on medium-low heat until the cubes are golden.
  6. Remove the bean curd from the oil. Soak the cubes in 1 cup of boiling water for about 15 minutes, then strain and set aside.
  7. Thoroughly clean the skin side of the pork belly, and cut into 3cm (1.5″) cubes. Cut the pork tenderloin into cubes of the same size.
  8. In a hot wok, without oil, roast the pork belly pieces. The heat will render out the fat.
  9. When the pork starts to brown, and there is liquid fat in the wok, then add the pork tenderloin cubes. Sear together until the meat is browned from all sides.
  10. Set aside.
  11. In a mortar and pestle, pound the coriander roots, the garlic and the peppercorns with a teaspoon of salt as an abrasive. The paste does not need to be very fine. Set aside.
  12. In a wok on a low heat, melt the palm sugar. Slowly caramelize it to a deep amber color, being careful not to burn it! You may add a tablespoon of water here and there, to control the rate of caramelization. Now the sugar is nice and brown.
  13. Add the garlic-coriander paste, the cinnamon sticks, star anise and the Chinese five-spice powder. Mix well
  14. Add the garlic-coriander paste, the cinnamon sticks, star anise and the Chinese five-spice powder. Mix well
  15. Add the pork and eggs to the sugar sauce. Mix well.
  16. Transfer the pork and eggs to a pot, and cover with a lid.
  17. Add the re-hydrated mushrooms and their water.
  18. Add fried bean curd.
  19. Fill the pot with 4 cups of water.
  20. Add the sweet black soy sauce, the fish sauce, the light soy sauce and the oyster sauce
  21. Cover, and simmer on low heat for about 1 hour until the pork is soft and the eggs are a nice deep brown color. Skim any oil that floats to the top.
  22. Serve hot, garnished with fresh coriander leaves.

The Only Way is Through The Darkness – Yasothon, Thailand – February 2, 2019

buddha-quotes-3I sit here on Kay and Jilly’s farm in Yasothon, Thailand after a week on the farm. A week of slowing down, getting back in touch with the land and allowing the body to adjust to the heartbeat of nature. The plants get watered, the chickens and geese get fed, the chicks are hatching from the eggs, watching the papayas and bananas ripening and making roselle hibiscus tea and aloe vera juice. Making trips into town for food for the humans and for the animals. It’s a pace of life I’ve always been able to easily settle into and one I prefer over the city life.

When I have been given the chance to spend some significant time with people during my travels I always ask a lot of questions about their lives. I want to know about people’s joys and struggles and how they are able to overcome life’s obstacles to put the joy back in their lives. Suffering, pain, and misery exist in life is the first truth in a doctrine called the Four Noble Truths in Buddhism. Nobody can escape from dealing with life’s struggles no matter where you are in the world. We are all the same human beings.

quote-we-believe-in-self-creationEvery morning at the farm I sit at the table with Kay after eating breakfast “solving the world’s problems” while Jilly waters the plants. When I tell him we are solving the world’s problems, he smiles at us and asks when he will be seeing the results. Kay and I converse about the depths of life’s trials and tribulations… from the struggles of growing up as children in the families that we did, to our relationships, to children, to societal norms and structure, and most importantly… we offer each other’s wisdom on how we can become more accepting and how we have been able to become accepting… of whatever life brings to us.

While sharing some of our life experiences with each other, I realized how real we think all of our struggles are, and it’s only the stories around them that are different. Our struggles are all the same as each other… not getting the love we think we deserve, stories from the past that we cannot let go of, family of origin, judgment, betrayal, loneliness, addiction, oppression, and all the others that you can think of. Our ego wants to think that we are the only ones that suffer like we do.

darknessOne thing we need to ask ourselves when sitting with our perceived suffering is… are we living the most productive, passionate and loving lives we can possibly live, given the resources and knowledge that we currently have. You might be surprised at the answers you get. And most importantly, accepting ourselves right where we are in that moment, being curious, allowing life to unfold and be revealed to us.

Of course, the mind or the ego, will have something to say when outcomes don’t go the way we think they should have turned out or when unplanned change happens unexpectedly. There’s nothing like traveling to unfamiliar cultures and countries that has provided me the opportunity to go with the flow. At times I have gotten upset thinking things should be different and in a short amount of time, I’ve realized how pointless that is and I would only be making myself miserable should I choose to continue to be upset.

suryadasIt really doesn’t matter the country which we originate from or the political system that we are in. It doesn’t even matter the faith or religion that we were brought up with or converted to. Being human and dealing with the trials and tribulations of the human condition does not care what race, color, culture or creed we are from.

The solutions to our struggles are universal. The answer is being able to weather all the storms, individually and together, that will help us grow to get through times of darkness. Because the light is always on the other side. It’s easy to lose focus during the moments of suffering and not be able to see the bigger picture and remember to have faith that there is light on the other side.

 

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One of my favorite artists, perfect for this topic… Alexi Murdoch… check him out…

 

 

A Chinese, Jew, Arabian, Thai, Australian, Hindu, Tibetan all go camping together … January 31, 2019

Did that get your attention?

 

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WeAreAllInThisTogetherA Chinese, Jew, Arabian, Thai, Australian, Hindu, Tibetan all go camping together. They all bring with them their religious teachings, country of origin, family upbringing, traditions, beliefs and personal value systems. Everyone wears their traditional dress and carries the books of their religious teachings… The Qur’an, The Old Testament, The New Testament,The Bhagavad Gita, The Buddhavacana and The Kangyur.

Everyone is reminded, as they sit around the campsite and introduce themselves to each other, that they all have been victims of suppression and fighting for their rights. Everyone’s ancestors had been exposed to discrimination in the past due to people thinking they were better than the other or the land they were on was thought to belong to them. Separation, hierarchy and protection between the people was a normal way of being.

There was a shared intention for everyone to put aside the challenges of the past and find the commonalities in each other’s existence.

As dinner is getting ready to be served, everyone takes their turn going through their own unique rituals of saying “grace”. Blessing the food and each other, the abundance of life and love, and being grateful for this opportunity to be together. They sit around the table sharing their prayers and blessings with everyone listening attentively and respectfully, learning and appreciating as everyone takes their turn.

Following dinner, as the sun was setting it was prayer/meditation/pooja time. There were different faiths and religions represented and everyone had a different way to pray or to meditate or to ask for thanks. Some people also took a shower, some people went for a walk, some people had extended their meditated and prayed time. And yet, everyone’s theme was the same. Praying for a peaceful life, for their children and family members to be healthy and happy and be prosperous in their lives.

As people were bringing their individual prayer/meditation sessions to a close, everyone worked side by side to help each other set up camp, pitch their tents and put their things away before they gathered as a group for the evening. The sun was continuing to set and more prayers to end the day were being said.

Everyone gathered around the campfire to share something about their tradition they thought were similar teachings for all the traditions they were surrounded by. People shared messages of loving kindness, listening to your heart, doing gods work, being at peace, extending love, discipline and practice, meditation and prayer, ritual, acknowledging the seasons, giving back to the world and many more. There was no discussion or talking about how one tradition was better than another or how god may have chosen one people over another.

thersisababyThat evening, there was a conversation going on where everyone was realizing how we all want the same things. Food, shelter, love and understanding. This was a time for everyone to put aside the challenges of the past and find the commonalities in each other’s existence. That all people want safety and security for our futures and how impossible that is because of the law of nature. Everyone there knew how we needed to become at peace with the unpredictability and impermanence of life to appreciate the present moment and what each other has to give.

It was clear in a short amount of time that something else was evolving out of their time together. They recognized there was suffering and pain from the past that they did not want to hold on to anymore, and to release any blame and victimization. The mistakes made from previous generations were passed down as learning opportunities that were being applied to current times to be used for good and not for separation.

OneLoveThere is an opportunity for all of us today to evolve love.  We are getting the chance to progress. To progress past our ego and culture center into a more world consciousness by bringing all the great traditions together. Let’s take all of the best teachings from the great traditions that have been passed down to each of us and bring them together to rewrite them into a new code of morals, ethics and love.

What the heck are we waiting for?

 

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I am getting to personally experience the full range of culture and religion here in Asia as I have been given the opportunity to stay with kind, generous and beautiful people and their families for extended periods of time. From Hinduism and Catholicism in India and Nepal, and from Buddhism and Muslim in Thailand. I’ve also gotten to see how foreign countries and their people have affected the native cultures in the countries I am visiting.

There is another narrative at play that I wanted to bring attention to by writing this story.

 

 

Part 3 – How Culture’s View of Communal Cooking Fosters Rich Human Connection – “To Give Life” – Bangkok to Nakhon Pathom to Yasothon, Thailand – January 28, 2019

This post might be a little long. I’ve been away from my computer for a week and have made some heart-warming connections in the last 10 days with lovely local Thailand folks that I want to write about. I’m currently sitting on a farm located in a town called Yasothon, Thailand, in Issan, Thailand’s largest region. This regions economy is based on agriculture where sticky rice is 60% of what they grow. This is the hot season, yesterday it got to 95F with a low of 63F at night. It gets as hot as 107F come April.

What does it mean “To Give Life” … to be “Live Giving”?

  • Having the power of providing sustenance, spirit or life.
  • That gives or can give life
  • Strengthening; refreshing; inspiring

After a bit of a challenging time in Chiang Mai, Thailand, I sat wondering what might be next for me in this country. I thought I wasn’t having the genuine and authentic experience that I truly wanted inside Thailand like I did with the home-stays family’s in India and Nepal and I was getting myself ready to possibly head to Cambodia. I surrendered into whatever was meant to be for me here in Thailand, whatever it was. Then, something happened…

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Kay
moo
Moo Kee Mao

In the process of trusting the universe (god), and my surrender into whatever is meant to unfold for me being perfect whatever it is, I was invited to visit the home of “Kay”, a personal chef in Bangkok and to visit the family of a new friend Purada, who I now call “Moo Kee Mao” (my Thailand version of Mickey Mouse) in Nakhon Pathom. Both with the intent of having an authentic Thailand experience with food and real people. I have been speaking/SMS messaging with these women for over a month and haven’t been able to connect with them except for a one day visit to Moo at the floating market in Nakhon Pathom the first week I had arrived in Thailand where she proceeded to get sick from all the eathing and activity.

… something for me had shifted.

 

 

 

Back to Bangkok

I made my way to Kay’s home in Bangkok following my time in Chiang Mai. Kay is from Chinese descent and a Muslim woman married for about 30 years with 4 children. When I first arrived, I was invited to sit and have tea and a conversation. The topics took a ride all on their own, from religion to education to relationship to spirituality to family to personal values to love to many many others. Three hours went by and it felt like 10 minutes. It was like I found a long-lost friend or sibling and we were picking up where we left off. Then we realized that we wanted to cook together and began pulling things out of the refrigerator to cook for dinner.

Spending time with Kay was a reminder and confirmation of all who I am in the world being reflected right back to me. And vice versa. That we are to be listening to our hearts, doing good for each other, being of service to humanity and putting life back into others that seem to be struggling with themselves. We were sharing both of our chosen positive world views we each learned from our study and from our personal life experiences as we were holding each other in the highest positive regard. All of our conversations around our beliefs systems included and transcended any religious dogma or faith.

Oh, wait… cooking… that’s right… Kay and I originally began our conversation around matters of cooking. Isn’t that the same thing that cooking does? Cooking brings people together to find commonalities with each other, accepting our differences and seeing the good in each other! Providing each other with life’s sustenance and spiritual truths, helping guide us into enjoying our lives and allowing others do the same. In short… life-giving.

We proceeded to cook the things that were in Kay’s refrigerator… Mackerel, lotus trunk, green papaya salad and grass jelly with corn. Kay’s pantry is filled with all the spices, bottled sauces and everything you may need to cook. We sat and enjoyed dinner together and planned what might me happening in the days to come.

I get a message from Kay a couple of days later after she completed 1000 pieces of baking sausage stuffed buns and banana muffins she was contracted to make for a government funded disability center with 500 beds. She invited me to join her for the day. At first, I was thinking I would take the day to rest after two days of walking around all day in Bangkok. Then Kay invited me a second time. She has such a way with her words that motivated me to get my ass out of bed and get to her place.

I accompanied Kay to Phrapradaeng Protection and Development Home for Persons with Disabilities and witnessed how they treated the people there, the cleanliness of the facility and of course I compared that in my mind to the facilities I have been to in the USA. Even though there are a lot of rules and restrictions in the USA for nursing home / assisted living facilities, I felt this facility was far superior than ones I’ve been to in the USA. For the most part, people working there were happy and wanted to be serving the people living there and you could see that in the vibrancy of the people they were serving. In this part of the world people definitely treat their elders with more dignity and respect than we seem to do in the USA. To Give Life!

bananaladiesmarketWe spent the rest of the day going through the markets, so I could ask the questions about items that I have not been able to get answers to. And winding up at IconSiam, a “westernized” mall on the waterfront that showcases the wonderful food and crafts of Thailand. In all honesty, Kay was interested in seeing the high society toilet bidet in the bathrooms at IconSiam and it was a bonus that I was able to see and experience that place.

The following day we had a full day planned of cooking and going to the market for provisions. Some of the problem is that we could just talk for hours and hours and we had to make ourselves stop talking so we could actually get something done. In the meantime, we were able to cook Pad C-U, Pad Thai, Tom Yum, Grilled Beef, Kao Thai Kaoi Kai and Chu-Chee. It was a long day of cooking and everyone got a chance to experience life through nourishment.

Nakhon Pathom

The following day I was on my way to Nakhon Pathom to meet a new friend Moo and her family. After being invited by her to get a tour of the morning market and the floating market a month before, she had invited me to her home for me to be welcomed into her family and have a real Thailand experience and to cook with her ex-husbands mother. As Moo would say… she was willing to do for me.

I arrived in Nakhon Pathom on Friday morning after very little sleep and still a full belly from all the cooking (and eating) the night before. We immediately went through the market to get the raw materials we would need to cook that day. Moo took the day off from work and wanted to be home to be with her 9yr old son and 2yr old daughter. I was really happy, even ecstatic, to be welcomed in to be part of the family.

familycarWe spent the rest of the morning walking the land, talking and hammocking, playing with her cute 2yr old and harvesting food from the land to be used to cook with… Banana flower, galanga, lemongrass, taro root, mangos, papaya, guava, jackfruit, kaffir lime, Thai basil and some other leafy greens that I cannot remember the names of. Moo has lived here all 42 years of her life with her family and harvesting from the land. Her parents passed away only a few years ago and she is living there with her sister, her sisters’ friend, her 2 children and her ex-husbands mother.

bugsAfter dinner we went to a first annual carnival at the Buddhist temple. It was very crowded and extremely loud. I have never heard sound so loud like that before. I wondered why, was it a rave? There were no other white skinned foreigners there that I could find. I had my first taste of freshly friend grasshoppers, crickets and other insects. They had rides for the children with no seatbelts or safety mechanisms or fences to keep people from hitting their heads on the rides spinning around in circles. I told Moo… these Buddhist monks know how to throw a party even if there is no alcohol or drugs there and only gambling and loud music. <smiles> Thailand can be such a contradiction in itself, to me sometimes at least.

We spent the next two days in a regular routine. 6am to the morning market to give food to the monks, to release live fish (Buddhist practice of giving life), drinking coffee and eating breakfast, have morning heart speaks complete with laughter and tears, and provision for the days cooking program. Back home to play with the children and to cook.

moofamilyThe menu over the weekend included Lard Na (Wide Noodles in gravy), Nam Ya (Thai Minced Fish Curry), Khau Tom Mad (Sticky Rice and Thai Bananas wrapped in banana leaf), Nam Prik (Spicy Thai Dipping Sauce), Pad See Ew (Stir Fried Noodles), Pad Kee Mao (Drunken Noodles), Prik Nam Pao (Red Chili Paste), Thai Banana Flower and Pad Kra Pao (Pork and Holy Basil Stir Fry). I will record the recipes and pictures separately from this writing.

Having small children (9-year-old boy and 2-year-old girl) in the house also provided me an opportunity to see another place where “giving life” plays out and how people orient themselves around the children as  children represent life’s potential for everyone around them  to receive. Children have such a beautiful way of bringing hope, goodness, innocence and simplicity and breathing life into our every day existence. Even if you don’t speak their language.

Being around the elder in a family is also a gift to receive. In the culture here in Asia, the families live together and value the wisdom in their elders. While in the USA we push our children out at age 18 to make a life for themselves and put our elders in nursing homes so parents can get their lives back. Moo’s ex’s mother knew so much about the land and the food produced by the land, is helping with child care, bringing generations of cooking wisdom to me and thriving in her own life doing what she wants to be doing surrounded by the life in her family. It was even wonderful for me to be made fun of and be the source of humor as “the foreigner” who does things differently than them.

It was a wonderful 4 days/3 nights with Moo Kee Mau and her family. I received so much care, kindness, generosity and love from them. As I write this, tears come to my eyes… the impermanence in life… to receive such love and life from complete strangers and then having to leave, say so long, and wondering when we will see each other again as I move along on my journey back to Bangkok and through other countries in Asia and Indonesia.

Yasothon

kayjillymeAfter such a wonderful time with Kay in Bangkok and feeling like I made a lifelong connection, Kay and her husband Jilly invited me to spend some time on their farm in Yasothon, Thailand, about a 7 hour drive from Bangkok. I had just met Kay who invited me into her home and now was invited to the family’s farm home in the country. We were talking about this in the car. Should I be the one to be nervous and scared? Because I am not. I think we know when people are operating from their hearts. It doesn’t take much time at all to see people’s intent. I feel extremely blessed to have met Kay and Jilly and be invited along with them… even when we do fight over who will pay the bill for the food at the market. <smiles> I need to get more insistent about that.

A message came through that one of their friend’s mother passed away and there is a funeral the following day. I was invited to come along to experience a Buddhist funeral. At first, I wasn’t sure about going. It was a 5hr round trip drive… I wasn’t part of the family… I was a foreigner… I was behind on my writing… I wasn’t getting time by myself… blah blah blah! Kay has a way with her words and I was convinced to go. I was reminded that I asked for a real Thailand experience and here was a chance to see a Buddhist death ritual at a temple in the countryside of Thailand. I’m so glad I went.

So here I sit the following morning feeling the temperature rise into the mid 90’s after a nice sleeping night with temperatures in the mid 60’s and much better air quality than in Bangkok. The three of us cook together, work together, talk about anything and everything under the sun and it is a very peaceful, caring and loving time here.

It’s sometimes hard to believe how the three of us have such differences in our countries and religions of origin and yet we all have extremely similar views of how to live life, extend love and being happy. I’ll spare you all the conversations about god that we have for the time being. I am continually blessed beyond any stretch of my imagination. Being given life is taking on a completely different meaning with the foundation staying the same. (S.M.Q., you’d love this)

polishchickenGiving life and love is a reciprocating process when done well between people. It is a place where we need to receive what others have to give and not get stuck in only giving or receiving. I needed to allow these people to offer themselves, their lives and homes to me and to just receive them. Letting go of any idea I had in my head of Thailand being “trans-actional”. At the same time, I was giving of my own life and my own life’s experience… providing an opportunity for sharing a different perspective when entering a strangers home, being allowed to purchase the food for all the meals and sharing of myself wherever I could… all the while receiving everyone else’s generous hospitality.

I learned how much I like to give and how I need to allow others to give to me without feeling obligated to do anything in return. If someone (including me) has an issue or hidden agenda in their giving where there is an expectation to receive something back, then it is not truly giving from the heart. I like to call it… Giving from a closed fist.

In conclusion, the giving of life can show up in many different ways. Whether its in the form of sitting with people sharing and giving of ourselves so someone can be free from their suffering. Life giving actions can be in the form of performing service work people who are less privileged than we are. Giving of life can also be in the form of nourishment while we put our hearts and love into our food that other people will consume which will provide them sustenance in life.

Life is a rich journey. Have trust and faith that life is unfolding perfectly for you, not allowing your ego to decide differently and that the universe (god) will provide everything that you need.

What are some of the obstacles that get in your way from trusting and having faith that the universe (god) will provide for you?

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