Paed Tidt 8-Directional Sak Yant – Chiang Mai, Thailand – January 18, 2019

When I decided I was coming to Thailand I wanted to investigate the possibility of getting a Sak Yant tattoo. There was something unique and special about having a seasoned monk perform a sacred ritual inside a Buddhist temple while performing a hand-crafted art practiced for thousands of years. And today is the last day I will spend in Chiang Mai, Thailand and it comes with bittersweet feelings.

satyankfrontThe last couple of weeks have provided me yet another growth opportunity to continue to look inside of myself, echoes of my past, and make the choices I needed to for myself to continue to be at peace with who I am, how I engage with people around me (friends, beloveds and the corner market cashier) and how I want to continue to offer the gifts I’m meant to be giving back to this world. As painful as some of these moments have been during the past couple of weeks, I’m at peace with myself, accepting what is. I want to express my gratitude to the people who have been around me and communicating with me.

One of the first days after I arrived to Chiang Mai I just by chance walked by one of the most popular Sak Yant places. It was then I was reminded that I wanted to check out this possibility. I stopped in and had a conversation with the receptionist, looked at the books with the designs and made the appointment. I knew I would need the guidance of the monk to help me decide what I wanted. Taking into account my own personal mantras, values, my work in the world and the practices towards peace I would have to sit with this idea for about 10 days because that was the only time their most practiced, 30yr veteran monk was available.

firsttattooI’ve never really been a tattoo person in my life except when I decided I wanted to design one for myself a couple of years ago. I spent about 6 months designing the only tattoo I have on my left arm and I appreciate the intentions and meanings around the decided upon design with the Celtic knots and the meanings of the words. If you are interested learning more about my first tattoo click here. This tattoo is a compilation of personal values that I embrace and practice in my life and forgive myself for when I don’t make the mark, which happens more regularly than I like to admit sometimes.

Being in the mix of the choices I made for myself, facing into the “farang-ness” here in Thailand as well as people’s individual challenges dealing with my expression in this world I continued to look at different Sat Yank designs that would represent me and help continue to set the intentions I have moving forward in my life. One of my teachers said… modern-day world is paved with intentions.

rachan-monkI sat in front of Monk Rachan and was reminded that no matter how liberal I think USA is – there is a class system here in Thailand – I am NOT EQUAL to a Monk and of course not, I did not devote my life to the study of Buddhism, celibacy and relinquishing my worldly possessions. Think about how you would act towards a judge in a court case, who looks as if they might let you off with a warning for some indiscretion and is just waiting for you to give them any reason to throw the book at you. I was on my knees and also sitting lower than him.

After giving the monk my offerings, I sat and talked a little bit about who I am, my work in the world, my personal mantras and showed him a few of the designs I liked. With his guidance I decided on the Paed Tidt 8 directional Yant.

This video will give you some idea of what Sak Yant is all about…

Paed Tidt / 8-Directional Sak Yant Here is what was explained to me and some of what I pulled off of the internet about the Paed Tidt Yant …

The Sak Yant design ‘Paed Tidt’ or Eight Direction Yant is a sacred Geometric Yant containing eight Mantras written in 2 concentric circles in the center of the design. The design of the Paed Tidt Yant also incorporates eight representations of the Buddha. These are the groups of 3 ovals each increasing in size from the top.

In Thailand, there is a Buddha image, each one in a different pose, for every day of the week. (On Wednesdays there are 2 Buddhas, one for the morning and one for the evening) and these 8 Buddha Images can be seen in many Thai temples, usually surrounding a Chedi.

The Paed Tidt Yant will give you protection in whichever direction you are traveling and ward off evil spirits. The script used on the Paed Tidt Yant is an ancient Khmer script known as Khom. The Mantras written in the Paed Tidt Yant and which should be chanted when going out to give further protection are as follows.

The yant is not necessarily for traveling per se, but is for pulling in good luck and protection from all 8 directions and is also good when travelling as all yants are. This is a powerful yant to be helpful in the future which is a form of traveling but has no compass directions. Do not limit your mind.

Unaalome, which is the circle at the bottom represents the life you live with the many earthly distractions we encounter in our daily lives. If you let these things control your life you will go around in circles. Get rid of these things and you will get on the ever-increasing spiral. The more you do this the better your life will be. The spiral represents the head and spirals around the crown of the scalp until it reaches the top center point of the scalp. The straight line pointing upwards represents the straight path to Enlightenment without any wavering behavior that the Arahants have accomplished.

It is believed the better you get at cutting these negative influences out, you will get to enlightenment much faster.

There are rules which the Yant bearer should try and follow. These can vary from master to master. Nothing will happen badly if you stray from some of the rules. Try and keep to the rules and your life will be good. Below is a good example of these rules:

  1. Do not kill a person for pleasure.
  2. Do not steal for your own personal gain.
  3. Do not lie to harm others. We all tell white lies and there is a difference.
  4. Do not have sexual relations with another’s partner.
  5. Do not spit in the toilet. The toilet should be a clean place and not to keep it so, shows disrespect to oneself and others.
  6. Do not swear at or disrespect your parents in any way.
  7. Do not speak about people behind their back in a manner likely to cause harm.
  8. Do not over consume alcohol and become troublesome to others. Keep in control.
  9. Do not walk under female underwear. The reason for this is to avoid temptations and distractions that the opposite sex can bring. Monks themselves are not allowed to touch a woman’s skin for this very reason and when a monk tattoos a female, he will wear surgical gloves.
  10. Do not partake in evil deeds. Avoid all contact with such happenings whenever possible.

Now I can continue to heal and make my way back to Bangkok tomorrow. My time in Thailand is limited and I’m not sure where I may be headed to next. Maybe Cambodia to visit Anchor Wat or to Vietnam. There is more life to be revealed to me once I arrive in Bangkok.

 

How We See Others Is How We See Ourselves – Part 2 – The Dance of Defensiveness and Taking Things Personally

connectionOne of the big lessons Thailand is teaching me is how I cannot take things personally or get defensive when people decide they want to see me through the eyes of their culture, their personal history or even if they might just be having a bad day. I have no control over how other people view me. All I can do is yield to what is, accepting the present moment for what it brings.

denialI only have control over how I view myself and how I listen to hear the words of others and the message they are trying to communicate to me. Having meaningful conversations and connections with people has been a priority in my life. And here I am, again, faced with having to look at how I need to engage with people choosing to engage with me in a defensive manner and see me the way they want to here in Thailand.

There are so many markets here in Thailand. From the wonderful foods, to the locally produced items to the knock-offs made in Vietnam. Sometimes it’s hard to know what’s genuine and authentic because someone’s interest is to only make money and not be honest with you. I walk around these places with curiosity and look for things that are unique and out of place. I bought these Tibetan Bodhi Seed Mala from the states and was looking for the same here in Thailand. Not to be found really. I found a couple of them that are REALLY expensive ($200-600US) and got educated about hoe people sometimes grind down the seeds to make them small and it’s the small ones that get the high price.

defensivenessIn my search of new mala necklaces I stumbled across a store that had antique tribal necklaces from over 200 years ago. One of the problems is that the woman who owned the store was not a happy person and you could tell when you walked into the place. I proceeded to ask about the jewelry behind a locked display case and she could not tell me very much about them at all, other than they were 200 years old. It was a beautiful necklace of what looked like tiny old metal washers (maybe brass or bronze) except they were stringed with a piece of yarn and needed to be re-strung. And they had a price tags of $120-310US. After I said I wasn’t sure about buying them because I wanted a little more history, I proceeded to get scolded because of the mess that was made from taking the things out of the display case and that she wasn’t even making a sale. I left a little confused. Was it really my fault that this shop owner was upset? Of course, it wasn’t.

relationshipdefensivenessBut what about other even more personal engagements?

Lately I have experienced some challenging conversations with people around me that I care very much about. It’s been challenging for me to get into these discussions and see them deteriorate when someone feels a need to get defensive with me or they see something I’m saying as critical of them. Especially with the people I love and care about. This has happened at the workplace, in my personal life and with the shop owner as I mention above.

Give up your position

It’s the person who has the most sanity at any given moment who needs to yield. All we have is to practice our own self-regulation, having compassion and extending kindness. To yield in any given situation when a discussion is going south. When someone is getting defensive and taking things personally the ability to get a point across is definitely diminished. I have learned the only choice someone has in these situations is to yield to wanting to feel seen or be heard and to be with the other person in their expression. It’s most challenging when emotions are high and time-outs aren’t seen as productive.

misunderstoodPerhaps someone was getting triggered by something I said that has little to do with me. Maybe old hurts were getting activated from a prior relationship or from a historical trauma. I cannot be so upset thinking someone is upset with me.

Backing off from blaming ourselves or others gives some space from a situation to get a bigger perspective. We listen openly and non-defensively without taking it so personally. We maintain our boundaries rather than immediately sink into feeling shameful or react in a defensive way. We practice hold our own feelings and someone else’s feelings with more spaciousness, while exploring together what just happened.

Regain Perspective

I’m reminded that by being triggered by a loved one or stranger, we may respond personally because we are human beings who thrive on kindness and compassion and can withdrawal when poked.

victorfranklThe good news is that traction can be regained by remembering to take the time to pause before responding and being more aware of ourselves when we react. We can be gentle to our tender spots and help make others aware of them.  And give some intentional space to the situation, so we are able to see things with understanding and non judgment and can try to look at the situation from a different perspective other than our own. We can learn and practice tapping into empathetic resources within ourselves and realize that not everything is about us. When we’ve made a mistake, we can acknowledge it, repair broken trust, and be more mindful moving forward.

Continually, we can live with more kindness and compassion for ourselves and others.

I needed to write to remind this to myself.

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Expectations and Hidden Shadow Issues … Chiang Mai, January 14, 2019

Expectations2Didn’t your mother always tell you that life isn’t fair?

After a week of eating good food and exercising I expected that I would lose weight! WTF?

Have you ever gotten involved in a relationship to find out they didn’t live up to YOUR expectations?


As I make my way around Thailand I am learning the differences in how people offer hospitality to foreigners from all of the places I have visited so far.

I began my travels in India I was welcomed into home-stays and families with open arms. It was almost a little uncomfortable at times for me to receive all that love and attention to my comfort and well-being. A wonderful experience to have to settle myself into. To receive. To receive like that from strangers. Without the obligatory feelings of having to give something back. It was a pleasure for me to go shopping at the markets and be able to pay for the food that we were cooking and participate in that process.

When I was in Nepal, I was purchasing food and cooking at a home-stay and feeding people there. I was dealing with some internalized negative thoughts in me that thought I should be getting something back more than what I was getting. Was I giving with a closed fist? I felt I wasn’t getting the appreciation that I thought I should be getting. There was this hidden expectation inside and eating away at me. I wasn’t going to let those internalized thoughts in me keep me from offering what I could to the people around me. But, at times they kept creeping in.

There is something happening for me here in Thailand. After experiencing the ways I was welcomed into people’s homes at the home-stays I was staying at in India and Nepal I had this expectation that it would be like that in all my travels. Was I wrong.

There is this disdain towards white, middle aged, westerners that I am experiencing here in Thailand. They call them “Farang”. Here is a good explanation of what I am talking about here. I’m taking the next two paragraphs from this article because it fits the message of what I’m trying to say.

A farang is in the unique and often uncomfortable position of being judged according to three very different standards of conduct: that of Thais, that of Westerners, and that of farangs, and a certain amount of maneuvering if not outright deception will be required to satisfy all three. On the other hand, farang morality can be profoundly liberating — as, in some sense, it is no morality all, but instead boils down to whatever you can afford so long as it keeps you out of jail. (And what’s more, staying out of jail may boil down to what you can afford — in terms of bribes.)

Sadly, the fucked-upness of farangdom is not something to which the Thais are entirely immune, and indeed they sometimes display an uncanny ability to adopt or at least imitate the worst, because most conspicuous and alien aspects of Western behavior. But because the Thais are more grounded than their farang counterparts, whose ideas of what is right and wrong have been so assaulted by rapid social change that they are all but nonexistent, the reverse is more often than not the case, with farangs coming to embrace values in Thai society that they see dying in their own.

Whatever irritation or disappointment I may be experiencing is not a reflection of the Thai culture. It reflects some hidden expectation or issue inside of me that is keeping me from being open and loving to all around me. Why is it that I need for someone to be nice and welcome me here? They have been here all along and I am the one invading their space. I am creating this inner conflict inside of me all by myself.

divakaruni-expectationsSo, I write. I write to get this stuff out. To allow whatever kind of time it will take for me to develop the skills I need to be at peace with what is, where ever I go during my travels (and even when I get home). I will not allow things hidden in the shadow of my life to get in the way of me offering the best I am to the people around me and to the world. Thank you for showing me where I need to grow!

Where are your hidden expectations lying that are keeping you from offering the best of yourself to your relationships and the world around you?

A deep appreciation to C3 and Sparkle Pants for the inspiration to do this writing today!

The Food Markets of Thailand – January 10, 2019

extratasteAfter exploring all the daily open markets in India, Nepal and now Thailand, it has become blatantly obvious to me how much we have lost track of the connection to our agricultural producers and food sources in the USA. The “grocery store” has become the place where our children think fruits and vegetables are harvested and where ground meat grown. While the weekly farmers markets that are happening around the country are great, they pale in comparison to what I’ve seen during my travels.

iceicebabyThe countries I have been to have different ideas of what quality of sanitation is when it comes to food safety. Applying some basic common sense about food sanitation you can find clean and safe products with the highest quality wherever you are. Some of the problem is that people aren’t always honest about their products because making money can be the focal point. For instance, when I was in India I had to assume that all the fruits and vegetables had some kind of pesticides on them. So, peeling them and blanching them was something I got into a habit of doing. I know it wasn’t the perfect solution, but it made me feel better. I think I’ve been doing ok in the 4+ months I’ve been traveling because I have not gotten any serious food poisoning (knock on wood).

Another issue I am having is the language barrier. I have gone to all of the major local food markets everywhere I have been. When I have a friend or a guide with me I have a translator, so I can get all my questions answered. If I’m skeptical about something, I make myself pass on it most of the time. Since I’ve been in Thailand I can see how the people value cleanliness and I’ve been able to drop some of the fear I have about food sanitation.

currypuffsI came across these “curry puff” or “Kra Ree Pub” and they looked so beautiful and I could not get any explanation of what it was. I stared at them drooling while watching them being stuffed and cooked. They looked like these delectable flaky stuffed croissants, which they were. So, I took a picture and sent it to one of my Thai friends and they were able to translate a little bit so I could look stuff up on the internet. These people are “specializing” in one item of production or product and they become masters of making it.

You can find the wholesale markets where the big trucks of produce are being unloaded and items are being repackaged to sell retail at the markets. I witnessed an entire truck load harvest of pineapple and napa cabbage get distributed to smaller retail “stands” around the markets. Everything is done out in the open for the public to see.

One thing that the USA is a step ahead on is their awareness of “agro-ecology”. I’m comparing industrial agriculture with ecological production systems, which include many traditional agricultural practices and treat farms as ecosystems to be managed. Producers using agro-ecosystems depend on built-in biological control mechanisms, organic matter recycling, and rainfall patterns. Production is safeguarded by growing a variety of crops in the same space and by rotating major field crops over time. These techniques increase the availability of nitrogen and other important nutrients. Rotation also serves as insurance against severe weather events and pest outbreaks of insects, weeds, and diseases.

By contrast, industrially produced foods use synthetic inputs to increase crop yields and livestock mass, control pests, enable out of season growth, and increase longevity. In order to better control chemical input levels, mechanization, and the amount of required labor, crops are often grown in a mono-culture – a practice where only one type of crop or agricultural product is produced in the same place over time. While mono-culture can drive down labor costs, the practice imposes additional costs on society via environmental damage and declines in crop yield and available soil nutrients over time Industrial livestock production follows similar patterns. This comes from the “Real Food Standards” that have been developed by major institutions in the USA that I use as a teaching tool in my classroom.

The moral of the story is that we need to bring more connection back to our agricultural and food producers in the USA. The daily markets are a wonderful thing. We think we have progressed to the point of being able to eliminate hunger by feeding the masses, which is only partially true. While we have come a long way, we need to continue to look at where we have come from and not abandon the ways we are all involved with our food systems.  The people are just as fabulous as the food that they are producing and we need to be in connection with all!

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All Homemade Curry Pastes

 

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Four Different Kinds Of Ginger But don’t tell them Galanga is ginger 🙂

 

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Shellfish

 

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Got Chili’s?

 

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More Chili Pastes

 

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Kow Soi – 45Bhat = $1.60

 

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Street Food

 

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