What Does It Mean To Be Freed from Oppression and Suffering?

What does it mean to be free?

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To experience the joys of the freedom of expression? To be free from the shackles of the bondage of slavery? Aren’t some of these principles the foundation on what democracy is formed?

“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.” – From the Declaration of Independence


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To experience the joys of the freedom from the suffering created by our thinking mind? To be free from our minds negative self-talk? To be free from negative thoughts of our own mortality?

“We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.” – “There is nothing so disobedient as an undisciplined mind, and there is nothing so obedient as a disciplined mind.” – Buddha


One of the most common forms of freedom I think we are most familiar with is to be free from outside oppression. Where people take or are given the opportunity to break free from imposed governmental, political or social conditions and constructs. When we are born, we really don’t know what we are supposed to be doing with our lives. Should we go to school or have a family or go to work… even… who are we supposed to be? And when we don’t know any differently and have become accustomed to an imposed particular way of being we don’t know what to be freed would actually mean. So, we define freedom by what we actually know. It’s when we recognize there is a different way of being that the process of becoming free from oppression begins.

It’s important to mention that the quest for freedom here is a social construct. Think gender / race constructs and even national stereotypes. Breaking free from these constructs is only possible when you become educated and can see the bondage of oppression and not the continuation of our freedom of expression.

viktorfranklOnce we become free from these social constructs of oppression we get the opportunity to think and feel as we like with the freedom to express it.  As we become free from the oppression from limiting constricting beliefs imposed from the outside world, more gets revealed to us on how much we can become slaves to our own mind’s limiting beliefs about ourselves and our own negative thought patterns. Some of these thoughts and patterns run deep from wounds of our past.

Most of us grew up with the freedom of democracy in the USA and in other countries. Even though we might not agree with some of the “rules” that have come out of democracy we still have the freedom to speak our thoughts without risking our lives. This is where our freedom, or oppression, shifts from being imposed by the exterior outside world to the critical and self-deprecating thoughts of our self-imposed interior world which I think is where most of us are familiar with.

One of the most fascinating subjects for me is how we attempt in getting free from our own thoughts. This is a teaching and a great discussion from Buddha dharma and in a lot of the great mystical traditions.  It is really possible to become free from our metal fabrication of suffering, which is dictated by our feelings and emotions of guilt and shame.  When we get exposed to these teachings and begin to see things differently we then get the opportunity to practice…. To choose our mental state, whether it is positive or negative. And that our state of mind is just a product of our thoughts… the judgments of our environment and our past.

Understanding the Law of Impermanence is an important way to look at the sources of our suffering. Because we have a body and a mind we are going to experience suffering. We will get old and our bodies will begin to fail, and we will experience pain in our body. Our mind will have thoughts that see things happily in one minute and will change to suffering in the next minute. The mind and its feelings/emotions and the body and its pain are all temporary states and impermanent. We can’t prevent or control any of it.

We cannot prevent our thoughts from arising and we cannot prevent our bodies from dying. When we go along following our thoughts (happy or not) and the pain that comes from our bodies we get to know suffering.  The body and the mind are suffering and realizing this time and time again we will see the crystal-clear truth that our body and our mind are not “good” or any special things. We will look at all of the things that we desire for our happiness and all the material things that we want to have and realize that all we want is to experience happiness and be free of suffering.

I am a believer of having intentional practices in our lives. Whether we are a sports player, musician, yogi or meditator… we practice. We practice to develop mastery. We also practice detachment, a letting go of negative thought patterns. We practice pointing our mind towards a more easeful and peaceful existence and way of being. We detach ourselves from the suffering thoughts in our mind, of the pain we may experience as our bodies become old and decrepit. It is through these practices where our heart will not waiver and suffering cannot make its way in.

When we can finally see that the body and mind are impermanent we can detach from a particular outcome of our desires embedded within our self-identity and be able to see things more clearly as they are. We become free from our own self-created suffering. We will be able to see ourselves and then each other in our own unique perfection because the desire for expectations have been eliminated. Once we see clearly in our practice that our body and mind are impermanent we will know the cause of suffering, which is craving or aversion, and be able to be free by the practice of eliminating them from our minds thoughts. Through our practices, we will be able to stay grounded, keep a peaceful state of mind and not be affected by our own or suffering.

This is the ultimate freedom. Enlightenment. Nirvana.

The Grand Palace & The Emerald Buddha & The Reclining Buddha – All That Glitters Is Gold – January 10, 2019

GrandPalace2I have arrived at Chiang Mai and I feel like I’m forcing this particular writing because it’s been a while since I’ve posted something and I’m feeling a sense of obligation to write something. Some of this is cut and paste from other places to give you some of the history with some editing. As of now my interest in writing has gone into areas of spirituality and overcoming the suffering inherent in the human existence. I have something I’ve written that I’m sitting on at the moment.

Thailand embraces the Buddhist religion and I’m learning so much. I’m learning how much I do not know about Buddhism. I appreciate the Buddha dharma and I’m learning how many different interpretations there are. Just like Christianity and the many sects, there is the same with Buddhism. I was a bit confused when I turned on the TV one night and found a channel devoted to cock fighting. If one of the Buddhist teachings is non-violence, how is it possible that there is a television channel devoted to this? I scratch my head. I’m definitely missing something.

grandpalaceOne of Thailand’s biggest tourist attraction is a large complex in the city centre, made up of temples, buildings, halls, courtyards and gardens – the result of more than 200 years of refinement. Located near the Chao Phraya river the palace grounds occupy a large rectangular area protected by a high, white wall. Ayutthaya, the capital of Siam had in 1768 been sacked by a Burmese army and the capital was moved, first to Thonburi and then Bangkok. In 1782 King Rama I rammed the first poles into the river bank marking the shift of capital to Bangkok and the start of the new royal palace.

The Grand Palace was not built in a day, but after the first 100 years the most important buildings had been constructed. As you enter the tourist gate on the north end of the palace, you will face a long, wide lane. You are now in the Outer Court. To your left, in the north-east corner of the complex you will notice across a huge lawn another wall around Wat Phra Kaew (Temple of the Emerald Buddha).

WatPhraKaewI went on a Sunday and the place was so busy and crowded with many people. It is one of the places in Thailand where people come to worship Buddha. There is so much gold and precious stones in the place… someone spent a lot of money on that shrine to Buddha and people come from all over the world to see the place. If you have any issues with personal space, then you better be aware of how crowded it can get. If you stay more than three hours you will grow tired and would be better off returning at another time. In my view there is simply too much glitz and glitter. This is the Thai way and they really know how to impress. I certainly was.

Temple of Reclining Buddha

watphobangkokThe Wat Pho or “Temple of the Reclining Buddha” is one of Bangkok’s most attractive temples. It is a much visited temple complex due to its location immediately South of the Grand Palace and the huge Reclining Buddha image it houses.

The Wat Pho is the oldest and largest temple complex in Bangkok, it houses more than 1,000 Buddha images which is more than any other Wat in Thailand. Most of the images were brought over from abandoned temples in places as Ayutthaya and Sukhothai by order of King Rama I.

After the foundation of Bangkok in the Ko Rattanakosin area in 1782 and the construction of the Grand Palace, King Rama I ordered the construction of the Wat Pho. The temple was built on the site of an older, Ayutthaya era temple named Wat Photharam right next to the Grand Palace.

During the reign of King Rama III the temple complex was renovated and enlarged which took over 16 years to complete.

To be honest… I’m a bit temple’d out. I’ve been visiting so many temples and places of worship in my travels, from India to Nepal and now in Thailand. And I felt that I needed to see this temple because of its grandeur and the story. I continue to be most interested in how the cultures deal with the end of human life. How we get into a peaceful relationship (or not) with our mortality and the ceremonies and rituals that we embrace based on religious traditions. So, my tendencies are to continue explore those areas. I am still most enthralled with the Hindu tradition around death. I’m not sure how the Buddhist’s deal with death rituals. Something I need to explore a bit more while I’m here in Thailand.

 

Giving and Receiving are NOT the same – January 2. 2019

Love and KindnessI have had the beginnings of this writing in my draft folder for a long time and it’s about time I got to it. There are writings all over the internet about giving and receiving that say all kinds of different things. Are you giving too much and not looking after yourself? Are you giving too much and receiving to little? Giving and receiving ARE the same! The secret to happiness is in giving to others. Avoid giving unsolicited advice. Give and you will receive. Are you confused yet? I certainly am.

One thing that I do not want to miss is the importance of service work, community service or being of service to humankind. This is a kind of giving that reaps its own rewards and cannot be overlooked. It is not about receiving or getting anything back when doing service work. This is about giving back to the world for the blessing of being able to be part of the world. It’s that simple.

An aspect of giving-receiving is where some of us have learned to be a giver out of self-preservation. Some people grew up in families where we learned that by giving of ourselves we avoided conflict and were able to try to keep the peace in our home. We were recognized for what we did than for who we truly are. As we keep giving and giving and giving we lose track of our own self-care which can lead to co-dependent behavior in our relationships.

Dali Lama AffectionIs it really more selfish to receive rather than to give? Some religions have taught us that. And that life is more about suffering than being happy. Isn’t that judgment an historic, worn out, religious dogmatic teaching? From the Bible, Acts 20:35 (King James Version): “I have shewed you all things, how that so labouring ye ought to support the weak, and to remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he said, It is more blessed to give than to receive.” By believing in this way of being we make ourselves feel competent, strong and that we should never make mistakes.

It’s much easier to hide ourselves behind giving. We give and give and give and never give others to give to us or allow ourselves even a chance to receive. We don’t want to feel indebted to someone or pressured to reciprocate. Even a simple compliment can be hard to receive. Just learning to say “thank you” helps experience the natural sense of gratitude that comes along with receiving a gift or compliment.

Face Problems With CalmWe like to think that by giving we are having a positive effect on our “karma”. But I think we get karma confused with the giving and receiving concept. Karma literally means “action” or “doing”. Karma, one of the fundamental concepts of Buddhism, is what affects the cycle of rebirth. This is about actions that determine “cause” and “effect” and have nothing to do with giving and receiving.

There are times when we are forced to receive. When someone criticizes our work, we have some choices in how to receive that information. Are you more likely to get defensive and take things personally instead of keeping an open mind and heart to see someone else’s point of view? What about when we make an error or mistake where we need a correction, how gracefully are we able to receive that correction? It’s the difference of being humble or feeling humiliated. The feeling of gratitude for the opportunity to make things right or the feelings of incompetence.

Behavior and PeaceReceiving means to be receptive. Opening ourselves up to receive. When we go to a seminar, workshop or even to school we are saying that we want to be open to receive new information. And yet, we can show resistance to receiving knowledge from our teachers, our fellow colleagues and students. We have lost sight of what strength really is. Strength is cultivated during our practice of receiving new outside information. Let’s not let our ego get in the way of receiving that information because we have attached part of our self-identity to our “knowing” instead of being humble in our unknowing. How can we grow in our wisdom and knowledge when we have such resistance in receiving new information?

What about giving and receiving in relationships? Yes, absolutely, relationships are a series of give/take compromises, one after another. I have already demonstrated in this writing that it’s much easier to be a giver. We can have such expectations on each other in relationships. How we want to receive love. How we give love. There is such conflict that happens in our relationships because we haven’t figured out how to receive each other with kindness and compassion.

Receiving creates intimacy and connection in our relationships. Prioritizing giving may create distancing and separation. If we don’t allow ourselves to receive a simple gift or compliment we are depriving ourselves of a moment of connection with someone else.

Which one would be more important to really learn how to do well? Giving or receiving? If you really had to choose between giving and receiving, which one would you choose? Yes, completely a trick question.

I’d like to leave you with these last bold statements to answer those above few questions as to why receiving is more important than to give.

  • To receive what someone has to give at any given time is the greatest gift you could possibly give.
  • Practice dropping our judgments and expectations so we can receive what life has to offer us at any given moment. This practice will bring us the greatest peace in our lives.
  • Learn how receiving someone’s criticism, anger or frustration, without shame or blame, so no matter what someone has to say to you, it will never destroy your inner peace or leave you ungrounded and break your peacefulness.
  • Develop a practice in the art of listening so you can receive and hear what someone has to say instead of listening to respond.

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Entering The New Year in Thailand – December 31, 2018

Fireworks in Bangkok
Fireworks in Bangkok

It’s a glorious day here on Pattaya Beach. Spending New Year’s Eve morning at Laguna Beach resort at the pool and soaking in some sun before I go to the beach. It’s been such a wonderful time thus far here in Thailand and I’m looking forward to more exploration of this beautiful country.

After 3 ½ months of travel I still sometimes I feel like I’m not doing enough or seeing enough or taking advantage of what life has to offer when I’m in new places. It’s quite the spin that my mind can get me into when I don’t allow myself the time to just be and realize that I’m never going to see it all or do everything. It’s when this way of being comes into my awareness I know it’s time for me to get still so I can listen to the spirit within me. When I allow myself to do just that I’m always amazed the peace that comes over me in the acceptance of myself and what is.

Pattaya BeachHere I sit at the beach after about 10 days in Thailand on the eve of the new year and I read the fakebook and others writing about their new years resolution’s.  I’ve never really been a resolution-ary. If there’s some change that I wanted to put into place in my life, I didn’t need the new year to make it happen. At the same time, I understand how new beginnings can make us reflect on our past and see how we might want to make a shift in our lives, to do something differently, to become the people we are meant to be, to realize our true nature. Whew… that was a mouthful. ????

I’ve always wanted to take some time off work and travel like this. Without having an itinerary and landing some place and seeing where interests/spirit/people/life takes me. And here I am doing it. I’ve always been the “different” one, even my mother has asked me since I’ve been young “why do you have to do these things or say things like that?”. I really have not allowed people or the culture to dictate to me what’s acceptable. I have gotten myself into some controversy in my work and in my relationships because I do things differently.

What’s next for me then? Don’t worry, I’m not suddenly going to align myself with mainstream cultural norms. Although, I will consider what might be next for me, especially when I arrive back home. But in the meantime, the new year is upon us and I contemplate and wonder as I sit with the breeze from the Gulf of Thailand in my face.

Self-Care…
I LOVE the pleasures that are brought to the body… food, massage, the smells of my garden and sometimes I can go a bit overboard and make the wrong choices eating and drinking. I want to be more conscious in the choices I make for my body.

Service Work…
I believe it’s important to be of service to humanity. Getting involved with the Portland food council was my latest volunteer interest. I will continue to offer myself to Hospice work when needed and there’s a good match. And I will be the best teacher, coach and mentor that I can be to my students.

Relationships…
One of the questions we get asked upon our death is “How well did you love?”. What does it mean to “love well” in our relationships today? I’m not just talking about the love you find in Eros or erotic love… I’m talking about all the ways we love… from affectionate friendship (philia), to playful (ludus), to self (philautia) and selfless (agape) love. I will continue to make the commitment to learn and practice what it means to love well in all my relationships.

four noble truthsVision/Seeing to End Suffering in Myself and Others…
The Buddha’s insight, in its concentrated form, is found in the Four Noble Truths (ariyasacca). They are the truth of suffering (dukkha), the causes of suffering (samudhaya) the method to end suffering (nirodh), and the Noble Eightfold Path that leads to the cessation of suffering (magga). The only thing that creates misery are my own thoughts, and those thoughts are the beginnings to actions. I will continue to practice my own seeing/vision of people in their perfection and know that any aversion is creating my own suffering.

Dhamma_Chart_in_EnglishI’d love to hear from you and what your commitments, intentions are for the new year.

Happy New Year Ya’ll!

 

 

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