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Learning to Live Undivided | Intimacy, Desire & The Work of Staying
This essay traces the arc from erotic hunger to relational depth, exploring shame, emotional inflexibility, and what it truly takes to sustain intimacy. It reflects on integration, staying when certainty…
Fresh From The Page
The newest pieces asking to be written. These may or may not fit neatly into a category — but they’ve come through anyway.
The Next Chapter – Retirement
In September of this year, I will experience my 55th trip around the sun. It’s hard to believe how fast the time goes by. At times, my body likes to…
Virtuosity of Happiness
The Different Facets of Happiness The tour of Thailand I am on now is different than the last times I have been here. Looking with the eyes of retirement and…
Patriarchal Conflict & It’s Reconstruction
The Starting Point… Patriarchal Conflict & It’s Reconstruction… Making my way to Asia once again I have chosen to look through different eyes. In previous trips to Thailand, I wanted…
The Exchange – Reciprocity
I have been curiously fascinated by the intricate dances we do as humans in the many relationships we maintain with each other and the planet. We can embrace the foundation…
Masculine Shame & Fear of Emotions
I have spent the good part of my adult life discovering empowering ways to take off the masks and armor of protection mechanisms. All I wanted was be accepted, be…
Passivity & Passive Aggression
Passive Aggression = Avoidance of Conflict Why can’t we just say what we mean, ask for what we want and be honest when we don’t want something? Passive aggressiveness is…
Early Traces: Where The Voice Began
Where it all started—raw thoughts, journal-style entries, spiritual inquiry, and early reflections.
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
Vulnerability in “Sexing”
Vulnerability…what does it mean? It means getting outside the protective ego and exposing your weaknesses and your desires in the face of being destroyed. If you want to have great…
The Dance of Dominance/Submission and The “Switch”
It’s been too long since I created the time to sit and write my thoughts out. The last half a year has been an intense and incredible time. During this…
Sacred Sexuality…Above and Beyond Intention…Surrender
The act of the sexual comes from the sacredness of what two people bring together. The sacredness lies in their intention. If there is bad intention..there is rape, it is…
Touch, Trust & Tenderness
Essays that dig into the terrain of intimacy, erotic honesty, vulnerability, and the shadows we carry.
Sex IS Ethics!! The Driving Force of Our Existence
Why it’s so hard to enter into the territory of “Sex IS Ethics”? Why is it so taboo? Sex is used in such crazy and debilitating ways. People can be…
The BDSM Mysticism – Domination and Submission
We live in a culture of sexuality where people can be confused around their desire to engage in the acts of dominating/submission (d/s). Some people swear by the d/s lifestyle…
Relationship as Spiritual Practice
Modern-day relationships are challenging and full of opportunities for increased personal awareness and growth. As our society enters a time of transition from the ego and the thinking mind to…
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
