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Learning to Live Undivided | Intimacy, Desire & The Work of Staying
This essay traces the arc from erotic hunger to relational depth, exploring shame, emotional inflexibility, and what it truly takes to sustain intimacy. It reflects on integration, staying when certainty…
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The newest pieces asking to be written. These may or may not fit neatly into a category — but they’ve come through anyway.
Integration: The Purpose of Difficult Conversations
Difficult conversations aren’t ultimately about deciding who is right. They’re opportunities to create a shared reality where honesty and harmony work together, allowing relationships to grow through integration rather than…
The Human Connections in India that Carried Me Home
I traveled to India expecting to be captivated by its history, temples, and architecture. What stayed with me instead were the human connections I carried home—shared meals, unexpected conversations, quiet…
Intimacy Without Control: Keeping an Open Heart in a Mistrustful World
Modern relationships offer more freedom than ever, yet many of us feel increasingly exhausted by uncertainty, dating culture, and emotional risk. Presenting how our desire for clarity and safety can…
The Mistrust Society: Finding Peace Without Control
The SIM Card Fiasco Getting a SIM card for my phone while traveling had never been this difficult. Then again, I was in Lucknow, India where there are not many…
Khajuraho: Coherence is in the Chaos
I arrived in Khajuraho expecting erotic temples and ancient history. What I found instead was a confrontation with my own need to make sense of uncertainty. Through the Kandariya Mahadeva…
India, Bhairava & The Obstacle
There’s a temple in the middle of a highway in Jaipur. Not beside it, not near it—directly in the way. Traffic doesn’t stop. It swerves. And standing there, watching it,…
Early Traces: Where The Voice Began
Where it all started—raw thoughts, journal-style entries, spiritual inquiry, and early reflections.
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
Vulnerability in “Sexing”
Vulnerability…what does it mean? It means getting outside the protective ego and exposing your weaknesses and your desires in the face of being destroyed. If you want to have great…
Sacred Sexuality…Above and Beyond Intention…Surrender
The act of the sexual comes from the sacredness of what two people bring together. The sacredness lies in their intention. If there is bad intention..there is rape, it is…
Touch, Trust & Tenderness
Essays that dig into the terrain of intimacy, erotic honesty, vulnerability, and the shadows we carry.
Sex IS Ethics!! The Driving Force of Our Existence
Why it’s so hard to enter into the territory of “Sex IS Ethics”? Why is it so taboo? Sex is used in such crazy and debilitating ways. People can be…
The BDSM Mysticism – Domination and Submission
We live in a culture of sexuality where people can be confused around their desire to engage in the acts of dominating/submission (d/s). Some people swear by the d/s lifestyle…
Relationship as Spiritual Practice
Modern-day relationships are challenging and full of opportunities for increased personal awareness and growth. As our society enters a time of transition from the ego and the thinking mind to…
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
Integration: The Purpose of Difficult Conversations
Difficult conversations aren’t ultimately about deciding who is right. They’re opportunities to create a shared reality where honesty and harmony work together, allowing relationships to grow through integration rather than avoidance.… Read More