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Learning to Live Undivided | Intimacy, Desire & The Work of Staying
This essay traces the arc from erotic hunger to relational depth, exploring shame, emotional inflexibility, and what it truly takes to sustain intimacy. It reflects on integration, staying when certainty…
Fresh From The Page
The newest pieces asking to be written. These may or may not fit neatly into a category — but they’ve come through anyway.
Love is a verb – Love is Action – Siem Reap, Cambodia
I’ve been here in Cambodia going on 6 days and I have not been moved to write. I wrote about every couple of days during my last few weeks in…
Some Of What I Learned From 2-months In Thailand
It’s hard to believe that my 60-day Thailand visa expires Saturday and I will be on the next leg of my journey to Siam Reap, Cambodia. My journey in Thailand…
Loving the Present Moment Open – Bangkok, Thailand
It’s pretty obvious to say… the flow of love feels great and facing into fears do not. Is fear holding me back from giving the love I want to give?…
My Soul’s Aching For Your Love
The union of the soul’s longing is found in love Where doubts and fear are obstacles to hopes of being embraced by the beloved. Pervasive as these fears may be,…
Growing Intimacy Through Exclusivity and BDSM
We live in a time with Tindering hookups, immediate gratifications through the internet and easy access to pornography and sex toys, instant hits of connection via social media, sexting, divorce…
Dear Dad…
I got word that my father was admitted to the hospital and released back home, yet again. He’s been in and out of hospitals for the last 4 years from…
Early Traces: Where The Voice Began
Where it all started—raw thoughts, journal-style entries, spiritual inquiry, and early reflections.
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
Vulnerability in “Sexing”
Vulnerability…what does it mean? It means getting outside the protective ego and exposing your weaknesses and your desires in the face of being destroyed. If you want to have great…
Sacred Sexuality…Above and Beyond Intention…Surrender
The act of the sexual comes from the sacredness of what two people bring together. The sacredness lies in their intention. If there is bad intention..there is rape, it is…
Touch, Trust & Tenderness
Essays that dig into the terrain of intimacy, erotic honesty, vulnerability, and the shadows we carry.
Sex IS Ethics!! The Driving Force of Our Existence
Why it’s so hard to enter into the territory of “Sex IS Ethics”? Why is it so taboo? Sex is used in such crazy and debilitating ways. People can be…
The BDSM Mysticism – Domination and Submission
We live in a culture of sexuality where people can be confused around their desire to engage in the acts of dominating/submission (d/s). Some people swear by the d/s lifestyle…
Relationship as Spiritual Practice
Modern-day relationships are challenging and full of opportunities for increased personal awareness and growth. As our society enters a time of transition from the ego and the thinking mind to…
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
To Be Heard & Be Seen: Attention and Affection
posted in: Compassion, listening, Loving Well, reflections, Relationship
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In a divided world, true repair begins with how we attend to one another. Exploring distrust, the generosity of attention and affection, the humility of receiving, and the moral evolution of compassion. Showing that to listen deeply is to begin to heal what is broken.… Read More