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Learning to Live Undivided | Intimacy, Desire & The Work of Staying
This essay traces the arc from erotic hunger to relational depth, exploring shame, emotional inflexibility, and what it truly takes to sustain intimacy. It reflects on integration, staying when certainty…
Fresh From The Page
The newest pieces asking to be written. These may or may not fit neatly into a category — but they’ve come through anyway.
Sex IS Ethics!! The Driving Force of Our Existence
Why it’s so hard to enter into the territory of “Sex IS Ethics”? Why is it so taboo? Sex is used in such crazy and debilitating ways. People can be…
The Divine Masculine – Part 1 – The Disappearance of Masculine Ritual Processes
Recently, I have experienced friendly and intense discussions with clients and close friends about “divining the masculine” and what that might mean. With all the talk out there about women…
A Walk In The Park…. (prose)
Glorious days in Maine when the summer sunlight dims earlier in the day and makes the radiance of openness even more glorious. It just wouldn’t be the same without…
An Evolution Into Post-Conventional Relationship
What happens when relationship is viewed not as ownership or exclusivity, but as a shared commitment to each other’s growth? This reflection explores what I call the post-conventional relationship—a path…
Early Traces: Where The Voice Began
Where it all started—raw thoughts, journal-style entries, spiritual inquiry, and early reflections.
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
Vulnerability in “Sexing”
Vulnerability…what does it mean? It means getting outside the protective ego and exposing your weaknesses and your desires in the face of being destroyed. If you want to have great…
Sacred Sexuality…Above and Beyond Intention…Surrender
The act of the sexual comes from the sacredness of what two people bring together. The sacredness lies in their intention. If there is bad intention..there is rape, it is…
Touch, Trust & Tenderness
Essays that dig into the terrain of intimacy, erotic honesty, vulnerability, and the shadows we carry.
Sex IS Ethics!! The Driving Force of Our Existence
Why it’s so hard to enter into the territory of “Sex IS Ethics”? Why is it so taboo? Sex is used in such crazy and debilitating ways. People can be…
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
How to Know a Person: Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen
posted in: Compassion, Conflict Resolution, Heart Opening, Psychology, Relationship
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What does it mean to truly see another person? Explore empathy, presence, listening, moral development, and the difference between being an Illuminator and a Diminisher.… Read More