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Learning to Live Undivided | Intimacy, Desire & The Work of Staying
This essay traces the arc from erotic hunger to relational depth, exploring shame, emotional inflexibility, and what it truly takes to sustain intimacy. It reflects on integration, staying when certainty…
Fresh From The Page
The newest pieces asking to be written. These may or may not fit neatly into a category — but they’ve come through anyway.
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
Non-Ejaculation Practice For Men: A Personal Journey
For decades I’ve explored a personal practice of non-ejaculation—not as a rule or philosophy, but as a way to cultivate presence, deepen intimacy, and better understand my relationship with sexuality,…
Speaking Your Truth Without Shame or Blame
Many of us spend our lives caring for others while quietly abandoning our own desires. Learning to speak our truth without shame or blame is one of the greatest acts…
Embracing Change Through Loving Well
Change arrives both by choice and by surprise. The real challenge isn’t simply adapting to new circumstances, but learning how to continue loving ourselves and others when fear, uncertainty, and…
What does it mean to “Love Well”? … Winter Solstice 2012
A couple weeks ago I was invited to a Solstice Celebration Ceremony by a new friend. The celebration was out of town with people that I did not know. I…
Eros and Psyche – A story of a girl named Psyche and her adventures with the god Eros.
One day on Mount Olympus, Aphrodite decided she had become fed up with the beauty of Psyche, the maiden. Psyche was very beautiful and was often complimented for her beauty…
Early Traces: Where The Voice Began
Where it all started—raw thoughts, journal-style entries, spiritual inquiry, and early reflections.
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
Vulnerability in “Sexing”
Vulnerability…what does it mean? It means getting outside the protective ego and exposing your weaknesses and your desires in the face of being destroyed. If you want to have great…
Sacred Sexuality…Above and Beyond Intention…Surrender
The act of the sexual comes from the sacredness of what two people bring together. The sacredness lies in their intention. If there is bad intention..there is rape, it is…
Touch, Trust & Tenderness
Essays that dig into the terrain of intimacy, erotic honesty, vulnerability, and the shadows we carry.
Sex IS Ethics!! The Driving Force of Our Existence
Why it’s so hard to enter into the territory of “Sex IS Ethics”? Why is it so taboo? Sex is used in such crazy and debilitating ways. People can be…
The BDSM Mysticism – Domination and Submission
We live in a culture of sexuality where people can be confused around their desire to engage in the acts of dominating/submission (d/s). Some people swear by the d/s lifestyle…
Relationship as Spiritual Practice
Modern-day relationships are challenging and full of opportunities for increased personal awareness and growth. As our society enters a time of transition from the ego and the thinking mind to…
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
The Dark Roads of Trust and Its Ghosts
I travel down dark streets through Thailand at night. There are no police patrols, no one to call if something … Read More