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Learning to Live Undivided | Intimacy, Desire & The Work of Staying
This essay traces the arc from erotic hunger to relational depth, exploring shame, emotional inflexibility, and what it truly takes to sustain intimacy. It reflects on integration, staying when certainty…
Fresh From The Page
The newest pieces asking to be written. These may or may not fit neatly into a category — but they’ve come through anyway.
The Emotional Intelligence Behind Relational Honesty
The Paradox of Truth Telling There’s a pattern I’ve come to know—not just in others, but also in myself. In moments where honesty is asked for, but not truly welcomed…
The Heart of Moral Life Is Relational
I have immersed myself in David Brooks books. I’d recommend his books. Both “The Second Mountain: The Quest for a Moral Life” and “How to Know a Person: The Art…
Local Markets – What They Show Us About Ourselves
The Unresolved Witness I’ve wandered through markets all over the world and I still don’t know how to talk about all of them. Because they are so different depending on…
From ‘Merikkkah to Sabai Sabai – One Year Later…
The Year That Was… (Context & Milestones) It’s been a year… and what a year it was. I left behind a 25-year teaching career in government education, retired with full…
Listening: Connection Before Correction
When we speak, we are not asking to be advised, fixed, or given solutions. We are asking to be seen. To be understood. To be heard. And yet, people so…
Following the Voice, Learning to Let Go
This morning I sit in a small Istanbul coffee shop along the Bosphorus. The city hums and pulses around me — cars, motorbikes, trams, people rushing off to work, ferries…
Early Traces: Where The Voice Began
Where it all started—raw thoughts, journal-style entries, spiritual inquiry, and early reflections.
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
Vulnerability in “Sexing”
Vulnerability…what does it mean? It means getting outside the protective ego and exposing your weaknesses and your desires in the face of being destroyed. If you want to have great…
The Dance of Dominance/Submission and The “Switch”
It’s been too long since I created the time to sit and write my thoughts out. The last half a year has been an intense and incredible time. During this…
Sacred Sexuality…Above and Beyond Intention…Surrender
The act of the sexual comes from the sacredness of what two people bring together. The sacredness lies in their intention. If there is bad intention..there is rape, it is…
Touch, Trust & Tenderness
Essays that dig into the terrain of intimacy, erotic honesty, vulnerability, and the shadows we carry.
Sex IS Ethics!! The Driving Force of Our Existence
Why it’s so hard to enter into the territory of “Sex IS Ethics”? Why is it so taboo? Sex is used in such crazy and debilitating ways. People can be…
The BDSM Mysticism – Domination and Submission
We live in a culture of sexuality where people can be confused around their desire to engage in the acts of dominating/submission (d/s). Some people swear by the d/s lifestyle…
Relationship as Spiritual Practice
Modern-day relationships are challenging and full of opportunities for increased personal awareness and growth. As our society enters a time of transition from the ego and the thinking mind to…
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
