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Learning to Live Undivided | Intimacy, Desire & The Work of Staying
This essay traces the arc from erotic hunger to relational depth, exploring shame, emotional inflexibility, and what it truly takes to sustain intimacy. It reflects on integration, staying when certainty…
Fresh From The Page
The newest pieces asking to be written. These may or may not fit neatly into a category — but they’ve come through anyway.
The Dark Roads of Trust and Its Ghosts
I travel down dark streets through Thailand at night. There are no police patrols, no one to call if something goes wrong. Vehicles speed closely past me that I can…
In the Wake of “Yes”: Living with Ambivalence & Paradox
A Natural Part of Change I’m sitting in the middle of monsoon season, again. It’s raining every day, carving rivers into the streets. The threat of flooding returns, like my…
Nothing to Prove, Everything to Give
For most of my life, I believed love, closeness and affection had to be earned. That I needed to be successful and do something impressive to be accepted and loved…
In the Company of Belonging: Finding Home in Aloneness, Loneliness, and Solitude
Can you believe it’s been a full year since I moved to Thailand? In that time, I’ve been navigating the shifting terrain of a new life—balancing spiritual practice, creativity,…
The Paradox of “Saving Face”
Verb save face – third-person singular simple present – saves face – present participle – saving face – simple past and past participle – saved face 1. (idiomatic, intransitive) To…
Letting Go to Begin Again
It’s been anything but quiet, and not by accident. A lot has changed. Some of it was planned—some of it arrived like a wave I couldn’t stop. And didn’t want…
Early Traces: Where The Voice Began
Where it all started—raw thoughts, journal-style entries, spiritual inquiry, and early reflections.
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
Vulnerability in “Sexing”
Vulnerability…what does it mean? It means getting outside the protective ego and exposing your weaknesses and your desires in the face of being destroyed. If you want to have great…
The Dance of Dominance/Submission and The “Switch”
It’s been too long since I created the time to sit and write my thoughts out. The last half a year has been an intense and incredible time. During this…
Sacred Sexuality…Above and Beyond Intention…Surrender
The act of the sexual comes from the sacredness of what two people bring together. The sacredness lies in their intention. If there is bad intention..there is rape, it is…
Touch, Trust & Tenderness
Essays that dig into the terrain of intimacy, erotic honesty, vulnerability, and the shadows we carry.
Sex IS Ethics!! The Driving Force of Our Existence
Why it’s so hard to enter into the territory of “Sex IS Ethics”? Why is it so taboo? Sex is used in such crazy and debilitating ways. People can be…
The BDSM Mysticism – Domination and Submission
We live in a culture of sexuality where people can be confused around their desire to engage in the acts of dominating/submission (d/s). Some people swear by the d/s lifestyle…
Relationship as Spiritual Practice
Modern-day relationships are challenging and full of opportunities for increased personal awareness and growth. As our society enters a time of transition from the ego and the thinking mind to…
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
