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Learning to Live Undivided | Intimacy, Desire & The Work of Staying
This essay traces the arc from erotic hunger to relational depth, exploring shame, emotional inflexibility, and what it truly takes to sustain intimacy. It reflects on integration, staying when certainty…
Fresh From The Page
The newest pieces asking to be written. These may or may not fit neatly into a category — but they’ve come through anyway.
A Little Lost … back in Westbrook, Maine
I applied for a year-long sabbatical in November 2017 and couldn’t do any real planning until I received signed paperwork from my bosses with a denial or approval. In June…
Finding My Way Back Home – Which is where?
Back in November, I straightened out all of the flights (5) that I booked before leaving the USA, knowing full well I would have to eventually do this, AND at…
A Glimpse Into The Foods Of Vietnam – Hanoi, Vietnam
After 7 months of traveling and doing research for my sabbatical… “How Culture’s View of Communal Cooking Fosters Rich Human Connection” while I was in India and Thailand, it was…
10 days in Hanoi, Vietnam
I arrived here in Hanoi, Vietnam after 9 days in Cambodia tropical paradise. I managed to allow myself to come to a complete halt after weeks of being on the…
Some of What I Learned After One-Month In Cambodia
It was REALLY hard to leave the white sand beaches and sleeping in a hut on top of the ocean on the island of Koh Rong Sanloem. It was everything…
Development in Paradise and Our Collective Moral Values – Koh Rong Sanloem and Sihanoukville, Cambodia
Today is my last day in Koh Rong Sanloem before I make my way to Hanoi, Vietnam. This is one of the most beautiful islands I have ever seen that…
Early Traces: Where The Voice Began
Where it all started—raw thoughts, journal-style entries, spiritual inquiry, and early reflections.
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
Vulnerability in “Sexing”
Vulnerability…what does it mean? It means getting outside the protective ego and exposing your weaknesses and your desires in the face of being destroyed. If you want to have great…
The Dance of Dominance/Submission and The “Switch”
It’s been too long since I created the time to sit and write my thoughts out. The last half a year has been an intense and incredible time. During this…
Sacred Sexuality…Above and Beyond Intention…Surrender
The act of the sexual comes from the sacredness of what two people bring together. The sacredness lies in their intention. If there is bad intention..there is rape, it is…
Touch, Trust & Tenderness
Essays that dig into the terrain of intimacy, erotic honesty, vulnerability, and the shadows we carry.
Sex IS Ethics!! The Driving Force of Our Existence
Why it’s so hard to enter into the territory of “Sex IS Ethics”? Why is it so taboo? Sex is used in such crazy and debilitating ways. People can be…
The BDSM Mysticism – Domination and Submission
We live in a culture of sexuality where people can be confused around their desire to engage in the acts of dominating/submission (d/s). Some people swear by the d/s lifestyle…
Relationship as Spiritual Practice
Modern-day relationships are challenging and full of opportunities for increased personal awareness and growth. As our society enters a time of transition from the ego and the thinking mind to…
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
