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Learning to Live Undivided | Intimacy, Desire & The Work of Staying
This essay traces the arc from erotic hunger to relational depth, exploring shame, emotional inflexibility, and what it truly takes to sustain intimacy. It reflects on integration, staying when certainty…
Fresh From The Page
The newest pieces asking to be written. These may or may not fit neatly into a category — but they’ve come through anyway.
Part 2 – How Culture’s View of Communal Cooking Fosters Rich Human Connection – January 22, 2019
There is so much to this topic. After I wrote part 1, I realized there was a part 2 to all this… and most likely a part 3, 4, etc…
How Culture’s View of Communal Cooking Fosters Rich Human Connection – Bangkok, Thailand – January 20, 2019
This topic has been the focus and intention for my sabbatical and travels here in South and Southeast Asia. The agreement with my employer was for my exploration to be…
Paed Tidt 8-Directional Sak Yant – Chiang Mai, Thailand – January 18, 2019
When I decided I was coming to Thailand I wanted to investigate the possibility of getting a Sak Yant tattoo. There was something unique and special about having a seasoned…
How We See Others Is How We See Ourselves – Part 2 – The Dance of Defensiveness and Taking Things Personally
One of the big lessons Thailand is teaching me is how I cannot take things personally or get defensive when people decide they want to see me through the eyes…
Expectations and Hidden Shadow Issues … Chiang Mai, January 14, 2019
Didn’t your mother always tell you that life isn’t fair? After a week of eating good food and exercising I expected that I would lose weight! WTF? Have you ever…
The Food Markets of Thailand – January 10, 2019
After exploring all the daily open markets in India, Nepal and now Thailand, it has become blatantly obvious to me how much we have lost track of the connection to…
Early Traces: Where The Voice Began
Where it all started—raw thoughts, journal-style entries, spiritual inquiry, and early reflections.
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
Vulnerability in “Sexing”
Vulnerability…what does it mean? It means getting outside the protective ego and exposing your weaknesses and your desires in the face of being destroyed. If you want to have great…
The Dance of Dominance/Submission and The “Switch”
It’s been too long since I created the time to sit and write my thoughts out. The last half a year has been an intense and incredible time. During this…
Sacred Sexuality…Above and Beyond Intention…Surrender
The act of the sexual comes from the sacredness of what two people bring together. The sacredness lies in their intention. If there is bad intention..there is rape, it is…
Touch, Trust & Tenderness
Essays that dig into the terrain of intimacy, erotic honesty, vulnerability, and the shadows we carry.
Sex IS Ethics!! The Driving Force of Our Existence
Why it’s so hard to enter into the territory of “Sex IS Ethics”? Why is it so taboo? Sex is used in such crazy and debilitating ways. People can be…
The BDSM Mysticism – Domination and Submission
We live in a culture of sexuality where people can be confused around their desire to engage in the acts of dominating/submission (d/s). Some people swear by the d/s lifestyle…
Relationship as Spiritual Practice
Modern-day relationships are challenging and full of opportunities for increased personal awareness and growth. As our society enters a time of transition from the ego and the thinking mind to…
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
