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Learning to Live Undivided | Intimacy, Desire & The Work of Staying
This essay traces the arc from erotic hunger to relational depth, exploring shame, emotional inflexibility, and what it truly takes to sustain intimacy. It reflects on integration, staying when certainty…
Fresh From The Page
The newest pieces asking to be written. These may or may not fit neatly into a category — but they’ve come through anyway.
Implementing Peace
We have a tendency to think that our suffering comes from the situations in the outside world and from others, and I’ve learned that is not the right way of…
How We Choose To See Others Is How We See Ourselves
We are the universe’s creations and so is every person that we look upon regardless of the past history or preconceived images we might hold in our minds towards another…
As Within, So Without – As Above, So Below
A powerhouse in a way of being in relationship with self, other and the universe is in the constant mirrored reflection of each others greatness and recognition that each others’…
The Restorative Relationship Experience
After reading Stanley Siegal’s Book, Your Brain On Sex. I wanted to write about his “restorative relationship” experience and how we can learn to engage with each other in a…
ReWilding The Masculine – Part 3 – The Warrior
We are living at a time where warrior energy is being highly scrutinized for its shadow qualities found in warfare, aggression and actions based from suppressed anger/rage. Women have often…
Inclusion’s Lack Of Discernment
Everybody’s got a place in the circle. Inside the circle, as opposed to a line quality which is about competition, everyone is always sitting face to face. That’s the circles…
Early Traces: Where The Voice Began
Where it all started—raw thoughts, journal-style entries, spiritual inquiry, and early reflections.
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
Vulnerability in “Sexing”
Vulnerability…what does it mean? It means getting outside the protective ego and exposing your weaknesses and your desires in the face of being destroyed. If you want to have great…
The Dance of Dominance/Submission and The “Switch”
It’s been too long since I created the time to sit and write my thoughts out. The last half a year has been an intense and incredible time. During this…
Sacred Sexuality…Above and Beyond Intention…Surrender
The act of the sexual comes from the sacredness of what two people bring together. The sacredness lies in their intention. If there is bad intention..there is rape, it is…
Touch, Trust & Tenderness
Essays that dig into the terrain of intimacy, erotic honesty, vulnerability, and the shadows we carry.
Sex IS Ethics!! The Driving Force of Our Existence
Why it’s so hard to enter into the territory of “Sex IS Ethics”? Why is it so taboo? Sex is used in such crazy and debilitating ways. People can be…
The BDSM Mysticism – Domination and Submission
We live in a culture of sexuality where people can be confused around their desire to engage in the acts of dominating/submission (d/s). Some people swear by the d/s lifestyle…
Relationship as Spiritual Practice
Modern-day relationships are challenging and full of opportunities for increased personal awareness and growth. As our society enters a time of transition from the ego and the thinking mind to…
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
