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Learning to Live Undivided | Intimacy, Desire & The Work of Staying
This essay traces the arc from erotic hunger to relational depth, exploring shame, emotional inflexibility, and what it truly takes to sustain intimacy. It reflects on integration, staying when certainty…
Fresh From The Page
The newest pieces asking to be written. These may or may not fit neatly into a category — but they’ve come through anyway.
Spring/Summer 2024 – Chiang Mai, Thailand
PWM – BOS – DOH – BKK – CNX I popped for the exit aisle seats for the 19 hours of airtime for the perceived idea of more comfort. Decided…
Divided No More
It’s been about 6 weeks since I arrived in Thailand. Landing in Chiang Mai continues to feel like home. Close to the mountains and the jungle. In the middle of…
After 5 Years … Almost There
Historic 5-years It’s been 5 years since I returned back to the USA from my sabbatical in Asia. That was when I became a stranger in my own country. Where…
What is a Good & Flourishing Life?
This is one of the big questions occupying much mind space and time in my contemplations. With my father’s passing, a 25 year teaching career, and a new chapter beginning…
The End Of An Era – My Father’s Passing – April 2024
Life’s Transition Point I sit here at one of the many transitions my life has offered to me. A time where a line is drawn in the sand, behind me…
The Cycle of Trauma & Violence
America – Land of the Not So Free, Home of the Not So Brave Today is the day I experienced the biggest mass shooting in Maine and the largest…
Early Traces: Where The Voice Began
Where it all started—raw thoughts, journal-style entries, spiritual inquiry, and early reflections.
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
Vulnerability in “Sexing”
Vulnerability…what does it mean? It means getting outside the protective ego and exposing your weaknesses and your desires in the face of being destroyed. If you want to have great…
The Dance of Dominance/Submission and The “Switch”
It’s been too long since I created the time to sit and write my thoughts out. The last half a year has been an intense and incredible time. During this…
Sacred Sexuality…Above and Beyond Intention…Surrender
The act of the sexual comes from the sacredness of what two people bring together. The sacredness lies in their intention. If there is bad intention..there is rape, it is…
Touch, Trust & Tenderness
Essays that dig into the terrain of intimacy, erotic honesty, vulnerability, and the shadows we carry.
Sex IS Ethics!! The Driving Force of Our Existence
Why it’s so hard to enter into the territory of “Sex IS Ethics”? Why is it so taboo? Sex is used in such crazy and debilitating ways. People can be…
The BDSM Mysticism – Domination and Submission
We live in a culture of sexuality where people can be confused around their desire to engage in the acts of dominating/submission (d/s). Some people swear by the d/s lifestyle…
Relationship as Spiritual Practice
Modern-day relationships are challenging and full of opportunities for increased personal awareness and growth. As our society enters a time of transition from the ego and the thinking mind to…
Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow
Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…
