Welcome to the Brain Dump

This isn’t a blog with answers or life hacks. It’s more of a trail of breadcrumbs through my brain. Sometimes there’s clarity. Sometimes there’s chaos. Occasionally, there’s insight—or at least a decent metaphor.

Welcome to the Brain Dump and thanks for stopping by. No shoes required.

Let’s call this what it is: a space for mental gymnastics, overthinking, and the occasional dignified rant. I’ve never found writing particularly easy—or enjoyable, to be honest. As a kid, it felt like punishment. As an adult, it still kind of does. But here I am, doing it anyway, in public no less.

Why? Because something shifted. Maybe it was retirement, grief, extensive travelling, or just finally running out of excuses. Whatever the cause, I’ve decided to embrace the mess, the meaning, and the mildly uncomfortable act of sharing thoughts online.

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Fresh From The Page

The newest pieces asking to be written. These may or may not fit neatly into a category — but they’ve come through anyway.

The Currency of the Heart

Posted on November 10, 2025

Trust, honesty, and attention are the currency that binds us. When communication is withheld, relationships hollow out. This essay explores how service, family ties, and romantic love rise—or fall—on emotional…

To Be Heard & Be Seen: Attention and Affection

Posted on November 1, 2025

In a divided world, true repair begins with how we attend to one another. Exploring distrust, the generosity of attention and affection, the humility of receiving, and the moral evolution…

Navigating Love and Power in a Transactional World

Posted on October 17, 2025

In Asia, I sought shared meals and spice-blending wisdom. Transactional intimacy revealed love’s truth: not a purchase, but a reciprocal act of presence, defying patriarchy’s contracts for authentic connection.…

Power Over vs Power With

Posted on October 8, 2025

The concept of power is misunderstood. We see it all over the media, politics & government, academics, leadership, and relationships. Most often, power is distorted into a hierarchical form, a…

The Double Edge of Sarcasm

Posted on September 29, 2025

The Laugh That Also Stings I have been told I have this sarcastic wit about me … sometimes humorous and sometimes even acerbic. I’m not exactly sure where I inherited…

Madonna: Material Girl to Mystical Struggles

Posted on September 3, 2025

Preface This is not just an essay about Madonna. It’s about all of us — about how the ego shows up in our lives. Our hunger for recognition. The resistance…

Early Traces: Where The Voice Began

Where it all started—raw thoughts, journal-style entries, spiritual inquiry, and early reflections.

Intimate-Compassionate Conversation and Shadow

Posted on February 22, 2013

Entering into intimate/sexual space with others requires an awareness in communicating our thoughts to others without shaming or blaming the other. It also requires a compassionate effort in receiving others…

Vulnerability in “Sexing”

Posted on March 30, 2013

Vulnerability…what does it mean? It means getting outside the protective ego and exposing your weaknesses and your desires in the face of being destroyed. If you want to have great…

The Dance of Dominance/Submission and The “Switch”

Posted on September 1, 2013

It’s been too long since I created the time to sit and write my thoughts out. The last half a year has been an intense and incredible time. During this…

Sacred Sexuality…Above and Beyond Intention…Surrender

Posted on November 26, 2012

The act of the sexual comes from the sacredness of what two people bring together. The sacredness lies in their intention. If there is bad intention..there is rape, it is…

Touch, Trust & Tenderness

Essays that dig into the terrain of intimacy, erotic honesty, vulnerability, and the shadows we carry.